Sunday, January 17, 2010
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Another nice tea day with my sister in extraordinarily pleasant places in Tarrytown that have delicious food, nice atmospheres and are cool with people hanging around for a long time (well, except the last one which always makes us feel adolescently amused that our our job seems to be that we annoy them), beginning at Silver Tips Tea Room and moving on to Coffee Labs Roasters around the corner and ending at Lefteris; how lovely to share current thoughts and events in our lives as well as recent and hoped-for achievements, questions, concerns, etc. while downing Earl Grey and jasmine tea along with salmon sandwiches and scones, following it up with cappuchino and topping it all off with red wine, humus and eggplant dip.

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Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Awful thought
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There is no end to the horror and terror that the vile kidnappers wrought on the Dugard family. Jaycee Dugard herself must have such a complex web of joy and guilt and sadness to work through, feelings and experiences that no one should ever have to deal with. And her parents must be unbelievably happy and yet also agonized because they know that enormous difficulties lie ahead. It's not as if adult parent-daughter relationships always run smoothly in the best of circumstances, after all. But today I realized a twist no one has mentioned among the unfathomable adjustments that the Dugard family faces.

It occurred to me that another piece to all this, something bursting with both unbelievable joy and unimaginable horror, is that Jaycee Dugard's mother now has two granddaughters.

As I can personally attest three times over, there is hardly anything as wonderful or joyous as grandchildren. But what if your grandchildren are also the children of the man who kidnapped, injured and held your own child for nearly two decades? What if the two girls you love so much are also the living breathing embodiments of dreadful things done to your daughter? And are not only reminders every single moment of every single day but also have their own gruesome history? One hopes that one's grandchildren's father will be someone you can love, respect and appreciate. But in this case it's like a wildly distorted and warped version of a good news / bad news joke because the girls would not even exist were it not for the monster who kidnapped their mother. In fact, it's such an astonishing set of events and pretzel-like interlocking connections that it's almost impossible to describe. So how can they all come to terms with everything? Are people that resilient? Is love and the desire to love strong enough? Can time close the wounds enough so everyone can move beyond the rage and pain, the extraordinary confusion and sense of being completely overwhelmed?

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Monday, August 10, 2009
Time really does fly
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On the one hand I cannot conceive or even clearly remember life without t2cgitw. On the other hand it seems astonishing that over five years have gone by since they joined us and that they will begin Kindergarten in a mere three weeks.

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Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Easter Monday update
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I already have two of next year's egg surprises! One is a tiny green frog with cute legs and red markings on its face. And another is a small stamp with the first name's initial. Cheers!

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Wednesday, April 1, 2009
April 1
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I like silliness. Last year I gave one of t2cgitw a medieval castle, one of whose little wooden characters is a colorfully-dressed court jester and I've been working on convincing her that he is at least as important to the daily enjoyment of life in the castle as the prince and his cohorts. So it's not surprising that I enjoyed April Fool's Day.

April 1st is the moment just at the end of Winter and just before Spring when people are encouraged to be sly and amusing. Not hurtful, just making people smile and laugh, perhaps at themselves, perhaps at those who are fond of them. What a wonderful idea.

One of my favorite April Fool's was when I found a gizmo (for want of a more technical term) at a little Greenwich Village store. With it, you could display a small apparently random piece of thread on the front of a garment while on the inside was a bobbin that held yards of the thread. My father was a bit obsessed with things being neat and tidy so if he saw a thread, he invariably reached and picked it off. It was a bit odd when he'd do it to strangers but he simply couldn't help himself, I guess. The first year I used the thing, he dutifully reached over and plucked, only to look a bit horrified as what seemed to be the fabric of my sweater coming apart in his fingers as a result of his attempt to restore order to my appearance. I think I was about 10 and I remember collapsing in giggles. So did he once he realized it was, yes, an April Fool's joke. Amazingly, I repeatedly used the little gadget on several April 1sts after that. Either he had an oddly faulty memory - odd for a college professor who wrote several dozen books - or very nice to his silly daughter and probably as amused as I was by the whole thing. In any case, it was lots of fun so on April 1st every year I try to do at least one silly thing, and I quite palpably miss him and his very funny, silly sense of humor. Happy April Fool's Day!

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Saturday, February 28, 2009
TiVo
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Lots of people know all kinds of good stuff about TiVo what with recording and wishlists and season passes and all that but having just gotten to see one of t2cgitw opening a birthday present I sent her even though I won't see her in person for a couple of weeks, I'm reminded of the awesome video and photo sharing feature. She's smiling and waving at the camera (me, in this case) so I feel as if I actually spent a few minutes with her. Fantastic!

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